Nagging questions about post-divorce dating....?

Okay, background info, I'm a 28 yr old newly single mom of two boys (ages 4 %26amp; 6). This question is not an implication that I want to start dating again, because my divorce isn't even final, and I realize that I need to give myself some time before starting a new relationship. Just some questions that are running through my head.

Do a lot of people have a fear that after the divorce and the kids, no one else will want them? I wasn't ever that great at the whole dating game to begin with, and I hear these horror stories about single moms and how the men they date pretty much scram after they find out about the kids. To divorced parents (moms especially), did you worry about whether anyone would want to be in a relationship with you post-divorce?

I'm also having some trouble with a major rule that I think should be followed exactly, but I can't figure out how to do that. I'm gonna run out of room, so be patient so I can finish the question. :-)

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no I never worried about whether anyone would want to date me......I was more worried I wouldn't want to date them......or have the time to date, and I really didn't have the time.....

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#1: I'm divorced as well, 2 children, would PREFER to date a woman w/children - not so uncommon, and we always hear the horrible stories, but rarely the to great ones (it's like people slowing down to watch the car wreck)

#2: It's YOUR family, your life - specific rules about how things are done come with the family.

So, someone interested in you (%26amp; Children) will be interested in specific rules.
if a guy is into the woman, the kids are part of the package. take it or leave it... and visa versa

it's just a matter if the kids accept the person that is coming into their lives.

if everyone gets along, then run with it.. if not.. run away from it.

i met a woman with 3 daughters. i was afraid they wouldn;t like me when i first met them.. i did some research and found out what they liked and went shopping.. when i met them, i bribed them.. they LOVE me.. not because i 'bought' them, because i knew how to win them over from the get go. i showed them that i had an interest and it was great from there...
I was not worried if men would want to date me. My biggest concern was whether or not they would accept my children. Blessedly, I found a man that accepted all 6 of mine along with all the responsibility. (and don't worry about what people "think" you should do ...follow your gut. You are much smarter now than you were then. You may be ready to date now OR you might not be ready for years yet... either way... do it YOUR way and don't let others determine for you when the right time to date is. Best wishes on your new life! and after reading your addition... the guy WILL understand if you are the one for him. Otherwise... move on from anyone who doesn't want to play by your rules.
This is a fear I had when first separated. Took me awhile to learn to be happy on my own and not to search for someone else, because if I was happy and content in my life it didn't matter so much. I knew that if someone would come along it would be great but if they didnt, then I would be happy on my own too.

As far as the kids go, always be up front from the start. The kids are part of you and a part of the package. If the guy you are talking too/seeing can't handle that then he is so not worth wasting your time over.
All your concerns about "will someone want you?, will someone accept the children?" are normal concerns. You just give it time and that will change. It is good to have rules about not bringing people around the children until you know this for good. The kids have a lot to deal with already.

As far as the man who owns the store across the street, well don't kid yourself, you know you are into the guy and you are confused about how to deal with. You do need to remember that you are not divorced yet, and that you should respect that for the sake of the children. Be on you own for a minute, give it time, it will all play out.
If this male friend is already in their life I see no reason why you should not let the kids see him if it turns into something more.That would only confuse the kids(here today, gone tomorrow). I agree that kids should not develop a relationship with every guy you date but if things get serious they should meet the fellow.You will want to know how he acts around your children.Be up front with the guys from the beginning about your children.I am divorced and remarried.My son was grown when his father and I divorced and my daughter was 15 so I had things a little differently.You sound like you have a pretty good plan in place.Just be willing to adjust your plan if needed.
im sure with the whole dating game that everyone feels some sort of insecurity. don't let that lower your standard at all. your kids are young and they will not understand the transition. don't do this all at once cause divorce is very hard on kids. I remember that very well when I was a kid

Dating and how to make it soo not awkward?

Started dating this guy I like. I have no clue where we stand. He is a good guy, but does not make moves on me.

I am scared to make a move on him cause I dont think he wants it.

what to do%26gt; and why is it so awkward?

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well its always better to start out as friends, but even though you didn't that's okay too. just talk to him more and more. the more you know about him, the less awkward everything will be. and if he didn't want you to make a move on him than he wouldn't be in the relationship to begin with. don't worry, follow your heart and just GO for it girll !

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well, if it's really awkward than don't start making a move yet., wait till you feel comfortable...give it time/.//
It's down to you. If this is a guy you really like, you have to ask yourself where you want to be with him and how much you can put up with. If you can handle the awkwardness, ride it out and wait for him to open up. If you can't, I'd advise you to make a move on him- a deliberate, straightforward move that can't be misinterpreted- and see how he responds.

Between you and me (and the yahoo answers message board) I get the impression this guy is either very green to the dating scene (out of practice, novice, whatever) or he's seeing someone else on the side but is too nice of a guy to officially "cheat" on his other woman. I sincerely doubt the latter, because the length of time that has passed between you two is too long for a nice guy to maintain a double life (nice guys, myself being one of them, are poor actors and terrible liars- he would've been caught by you or the other girl by now!). That only leaves out-of-practice as a valid theory.

He's nervous and awkward, and he'll stay that way until you show him that you're not trying to burn him/mess with his head/want to be just friends.

Why is dating can be such a headache to go through?

I find dating sometimes such a frustration task to go through like a job interview? You polished and re-edit your cover letter and resume to make sure it "fits" the job description. You send hundreds of resumes out there and have to compete with loads of qualified people And what you only get a handful of interviews.. Making sure you dont bombed the first/second/third interview??? ... Especially when dating gets a bit of challenge as you get older?

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I think you should make it fun. If you are making it like a job, than you are not doing something right. Don't take a date that would not make a good mate. You can screen these dates.

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Because when you do find the right person, it's just that much more rewarding.
it's part of finding someone special in your life. be optimistic.

Would you continue dating someone just because you were lonely?

I moved away from my hometown a few months ago. I've been dating a woman here for a month now. I like being around her, but she's just not the right person for me. I've continued to date her just because I feel so lonely away from my family and friends, and she offers some comfort from that loneliness. Should I continue to see her?

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No. You may not realize this, but you are using her. You're using her to fill the empty void in your life. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? If she was lonely and only dated you to fill that empty void? Would you want to stay with her? Would you be ok with this? Probably not. You'd feel used. She deserves better. Tell her it just isn't working out for you. It'll break her heart, but it's better to end it that way then say. "Hey, I was only using you because I was lonely."

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I don;t think that is fair to her
no, find someone who will swap you off your feet. If you're with her you wont find someone better.
hell yes
no I wouldn't
I agree with candyman, it isn't fair for you to use her.
I wouldn't be with someone just because I was lonely. I only would want to be with someone if I really liked him.
It's not fair for her to lead her on, what if she thinks you want a long term relationship? Maybe you can break it off amicably and if she's willing perhaps stay friends?
have u tried just being friends with her

u should be honest with her though, if u dont fell that strongly about her, u should tell her, because if dont , then she will also miss out on someone else

personally i dont think u should continue seeing her like that
i agree its not fair on the woman. if ur lonely join some sports teams or evening classes or sumthing. make friend first u dont have 2 find a partner. at the end of the day most relationships and and u will be lonely again but friendships last. stay single and mingle until the right one turns up
You may continue to see her if you make it clear to her that you like being around her, have a chat once in a while, maybe a night together or whatever but that you don't see yourself getting involved on a deeper level. Once she is aware of this, there is no misleading or deceiving and if she decides to continue seeing you, it can be a nice relationship anyway...
No not in a romantic way its kinda selfish, now if shes is doing it for the same reason then hey thats cool. However if she is in any way wanting something more than you need to be honest and let her know how you feel.
Hell NO! When you are alone, that is when you learn to define yourself as a person. If you are so weak you cannot spend time alone with yourself to really find out who you are and what you are all about, you might as well commit suicide because secretly, what you are actually doing is killing yourself.

Nagging questions about post-divorce dating....?

Okay, background info, I'm a 28 yr old newly single mom of two boys (ages 4 %26amp; 6). This question is not an implication that I want to start dating again, because my divorce isn't even final, and I realize that I need to give myself some time before starting a new relationship. Just some questions that are running through my head.

Do a lot of people have a fear that after the divorce and the kids, no one else will want them? I wasn't ever that great at the whole dating game to begin with, and I hear these horror stories about single moms and how the men they date pretty much scram after they find out about the kids. To divorced parents (moms especially), did you worry about whether anyone would want to be in a relationship with you post-divorce?

I'm also having some trouble with a major rule that I think should be followed exactly, but I can't figure out how to do that. I'm gonna run out of room, so be patient so I can finish the question. :-)

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no I never worried about whether anyone would want to date me......I was more worried I wouldn't want to date them......or have the time to date, and I really didn't have the time.....

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#1: I'm divorced as well, 2 children, would PREFER to date a woman w/children - not so uncommon, and we always hear the horrible stories, but rarely the to great ones (it's like people slowing down to watch the car wreck)

#2: It's YOUR family, your life - specific rules about how things are done come with the family.

So, someone interested in you (%26amp; Children) will be interested in specific rules.
if a guy is into the woman, the kids are part of the package. take it or leave it... and visa versa

it's just a matter if the kids accept the person that is coming into their lives.

if everyone gets along, then run with it.. if not.. run away from it.

i met a woman with 3 daughters. i was afraid they wouldn;t like me when i first met them.. i did some research and found out what they liked and went shopping.. when i met them, i bribed them.. they LOVE me.. not because i 'bought' them, because i knew how to win them over from the get go. i showed them that i had an interest and it was great from there...
I was not worried if men would want to date me. My biggest concern was whether or not they would accept my children. Blessedly, I found a man that accepted all 6 of mine along with all the responsibility. (and don't worry about what people "think" you should do ...follow your gut. You are much smarter now than you were then. You may be ready to date now OR you might not be ready for years yet... either way... do it YOUR way and don't let others determine for you when the right time to date is. Best wishes on your new life! and after reading your addition... the guy WILL understand if you are the one for him. Otherwise... move on from anyone who doesn't want to play by your rules.
This is a fear I had when first separated. Took me awhile to learn to be happy on my own and not to search for someone else, because if I was happy and content in my life it didn't matter so much. I knew that if someone would come along it would be great but if they didnt, then I would be happy on my own too.

As far as the kids go, always be up front from the start. The kids are part of you and a part of the package. If the guy you are talking too/seeing can't handle that then he is so not worth wasting your time over.
All your concerns about "will someone want you?, will someone accept the children?" are normal concerns. You just give it time and that will change. It is good to have rules about not bringing people around the children until you know this for good. The kids have a lot to deal with already.

As far as the man who owns the store across the street, well don't kid yourself, you know you are into the guy and you are confused about how to deal with. You do need to remember that you are not divorced yet, and that you should respect that for the sake of the children. Be on you own for a minute, give it time, it will all play out.
If this male friend is already in their life I see no reason why you should not let the kids see him if it turns into something more.That would only confuse the kids(here today, gone tomorrow). I agree that kids should not develop a relationship with every guy you date but if things get serious they should meet the fellow.You will want to know how he acts around your children.Be up front with the guys from the beginning about your children.I am divorced and remarried.My son was grown when his father and I divorced and my daughter was 15 so I had things a little differently.You sound like you have a pretty good plan in place.Just be willing to adjust your plan if needed.
im sure with the whole dating game that everyone feels some sort of insecurity. don't let that lower your standard at all. your kids are young and they will not understand the transition. don't do this all at once cause divorce is very hard on kids. I remember that very well when I was a kid

Dating someone with MS?

I've been dating a girl that has MS for about a year. I'm 28, she's 21 and was diagnosed when she was 16. It has been really hard on me because the MS has caused her severe self-esteem issues, which affect the relationship when she breaks down after hearing even the slightest bit of criticism from others, regardless of how unwarranted it may be.

I'm having a hard time adjusting to the university (Berkeley) and her being very dependent on my support is wearing me out. I've been very supportive of her and have helped her achieve many things but the minute I show any disagreement with the way she handles things, I am accused of not being supportive at all.

I love her and don't want to break up with her but she is failing to take care of herself, ranging from not taking her Copaxone shots to going as far as cutting herself this weekend.

I live an hour away and am busy with school and can't be there with her so I'd like for her to take care of herself. Therapy's not working.

HELP!

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I also have MS and I also had the same emotional problems that you have described, I was always in tears over the smallest of things.

I spoke with my MS nurse about it and I'm now on anti depressants which have helped me no end, I finally feel like I'm getting my life back.

I am also on Copaxone shots and they do work together.

See if you can encourage her to speak to her Dr about what is going on. Its hard, I know I didn't like people saying things about me being poorly and needing help and I even ignored the advice from my nurse for a few weeks until I realised I was losing complete control.

Good luck and if you want to ask me any questions mail me.

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Get her parents involved. They need to know that she is cutting herself and has depression issues. Don't make her problems into your problems. You can't fix them EVEN IF you love her, EVEN IF you're there for her, EVEN IF she's mature, EVEN IF the moon is made of cheese. She's decided to be a "victim" instead of a "survivor". There's nothing you can do to change that- she'll have to do it on her own. Until she can be strong enough within herseld she isn't healthy enough to have a relationship with you. She's depending on you like a friend, a very bad one, not as a lover and companion.

I think it would show alot of class and charachter on your part to contact her parents. A few years down the line she will be grateful for what you've done for her.

Dating and Race?

When it comes to white men and black men is there like a different way that they go about apporoaching dating. I heard that for example with white men usually they expect the woman to take the innitiative with things, for example phone calls and stuff ... is there like any truth to this

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no difference,if you like the gut no matter what race,just try,whats the worst that can happen,him saying,no thats about it.so go for it,and dont worry about race

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Of course not. That is all just stereotypical junk.
it is pretty much the same men typically wait on yall to do all those things just like in the relationship.
i don't see nothing diffewrent, i honestly i've dated all types of men, from white to asian to middle eastern and hispanics, and honestly i think they all are the same. that's just my opinion, cuz im not racist, the only difference it's the religion.
THE SKIN DOESN'T MAKE THE DIFFERENCE.

PERSONALITY DOES!
Nope. Race has nothing to do with what you're asking. What a man does in terms of relationships or 'initiating' things depends on what his personality is and how he was raised, etc.

Dating Romanian men?

I just started casually dating a Romanian guy who is in his 20s. Even though he came to the states (moved to miami) when he was 10, his parents raised him according to romanian culture. so i was just curious as to what are the "typical" traits Romanian men from Timisoara area have, how do they view women and go about relationships? im not looking to base things off of stereotypes but was just wondering how the culture is set up.

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dont listen to these guys.

romanian men are not gypsies its entirely different.

also, they do not eat rodents and do not treat women as property.

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That's hot!
they require u to be a slave to them and wait on them hand and foot once they have trapped u into a marriage
Romanian men

-rick
Buna.Parerea altora despre barbati, nu poate fi echivalata de experienta ce o poti avea tu.Imi pare rau si zau mi s-a facut rau citind comentariile astea absurde.Maritata cu canadian sunt mai prost tratata decat ultimul meu prieten roman.Ghiciti pe cine am la suflet???

Va doresc IUBIRE si LA MULTI ANI!!!!!!!!!!!Barbatii romani sunt finuti si educati.Nu ezita daca inima iti da branci
okay I'm Romanian and Aunt is too and she married a Romanian. They were great at first, but later after they married, he started to treat her like trash, he hit her in front of the kids. My dad, who is Romanian, but is very nice, told me and my sisters that we all have to observe the guy's fathers first, before marriage. Turns out that some Romanian guys turn out to act like their fathers when they get older. I am not saying that all Romanian guys are bad, because a lot of the are sweet!Look to see if his father and mother are kind. If they are then it's okay. I'm just helping you out here lol Thanks and Happy New Year!

Dating your own race?

does anyone besides me find it boring in dating your own race?

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I wouldnt say boring but I never liked white men. I found them attractive but not as attractive as black or hispanic men. I liked there culture and them being darker seemed more manly to me....I married a guy from Uruguay. so yes, I would have to agree with you.

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you mean the human race? are you in to farm animals or small woodland creatures or something?
why?
if you like/love someone then it shouldn't matter WHAT race they are.
i also feel like that..and now i had a crush over a guy that is different race
No! The only thing I have in common with my woman is skin color. We are both 10-15% of some nationality in Europe.
I'm not bored. I'm not racist or anything...well not anymore then everyone else, but I'm just not attracted to any body besides caucasion. I not completly sure why, just how I am. Well, I like asian a bit, but still caucasion still has more effect for me.
only u.////
its only a date....up to individual....its a routine too?

dating own race is as interseting as any for the human mind and prererence is hard to understand...

different race would be most inetersting as it opens a new world of cultural knowldege and the intimate moments too....
it really shouldnt matter what "race" if you want to date somone but i know family and friends can make life difficult somtimes....sad but true.
I don't find it boring... just am not attracted to people of my own race. They may be friends and buddies... but they are like brothers to me.
whot is it u r looking 4 outside your race dat u can find within ur race? U sound very much like NAPOLEON of animal farm.

I have been out ofthe dating scene for 20 years. I have been seeing someone for about a month.?

We met on line and since our first contact have talked every day (at first each conversation was 2 or 3 hours in length for about 4 or 5 days). When we finally met there was instant chemistry and we have dated at least once a week - sometimes twice, every week since. We have spoken every day (but one) on the phone and on the one day we didn't speak we conversed briefly by email. I really like this guy. We are both still on the dating site (although I tell interested parties i have found someone), so, how do I let this guy know that I would like us to be exclusive or is it safe to assume perhaps we are?? I don't want to scare him off, but I don't want to let him get away either - I really like this one!!! He seems to be s into me too and is not afraid to show his affections towards me even in public, hold hands, kisses etc.. But again its been a long time since I've dated and I tend to over analyze everything....What do I do??

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Just be honest and tell him how you feel. The odds are that he feels the same. Congrats on finding a nice guy and I hope it works out for you!

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Never assume. Ask.
A lot has changed on the dating scene in the last 20 years.

For a start - we now only date people of the same sex as yourself.
I would try removing yourself from the dating site first so that shows him you are interested in only him now and see if he removes himself or continues the site. If you two hit it off so well, then ask him what he wants out of the relationship and tell him what you want. Good luck
Just be honest with him. People play too many games nowadays and it sounds like you have probably both been through some relationships before. Just let him know that you feel a chemistry and that you have been really enjoying the time you spend together. I don't think you have to ask him to be exclusive but you should make your feelings clear and see what he says back. If he returns them then it's probably safe to say you are both in the same place in the relationship and you will feel a lot better. Good luck.
You've only been "seeing" him for a month, not long enough at all to tell what he's really like. Keep your options open, as well as your eyes and ears. After you have known him and dated for say, six months, then talk about exclusivity. Again, not nearly long enough to really get to know him, but a little better than one months and at the end of six months you want to know that the 2 of you are working on a future together.
3 months. Thats the standard time frame to decide whether you want to take the next step and be exclusive, or move on. Of course thats just a time frame, you both may feel the same right away. But if he hasn't said anything, I wouldn't bring it up now. However, for your own health and well being, I would sleep with the guy until you are in a confirmed monogamous relationship.
First I would get off the dating site. As long as you are out there it means you "may" be availiable. Second just let him know how much you enjoy his company and your contacts and really want to continue what is a good beginning. Tell him that you have taken yourself off the dating site (don't ask him to do the same - let him volunteer it). See where it goes. Don't expect the continual contact that you have had to continue unless there is really good vibes. Good luck
relax......NOW, understand that a man is doing you a favor if he runs away after you tell him what you want. Now you and he don't have to pretend that you are something that you are not. Next, if you want to be exclusive, TELL HIM. Don't hinge your wants and desires on a man's reaction to them. Learn to be yourself NOW in front of him, and then you will be starting off on the right foot. A man will always respect a woman who knows what she wants, and waits for no man to get it. Goo dluck, and seriously, RELAX
You have to have "the talk" You should not assume anything that is how you can get yourself hurt. But I would just take it easy. A month may be long enough for some to be exclusive, but not everyone feels that way. Now if you are having sex diferent rules apply. But just to put your mind at ease you should talk to him and tell him what you want. If he gets scared off then you weren't meant to be anyway. Good luck!
ask him about it. confront him and see what his imput on it and then take action don't do anything you or him would not want to do. It is always best to express ur feelings towards someone so don't be afraid.
Take your time. Know him 6 months before any moving in together. Should you move in together write up an agreement and sign it to split all costs. Keep good records .

Keep separate bank accounts.

Loan NO money. Small or big.

Sign on NO loans.

DO NOT LET LOVE MAKE YOU STUPID. If it is real it will work. Good Luck.
you have got to make the first move , he might be shy, or just nervous that if he makes the first move it will frighten you away , don't let this guy get away he sounds great , speak to him now , you only get one chance at real happiness in life, and i think the only reason he is still on this dating site is he is wondering the same as you , will she wont she is she the one ,,,go for it and good luck
As a guy I'd like you to copy the question you just asked everyone and give it to him. Guys are not real bright,, sometimes you have to hit us over the head with a hammer to get our attention.
Never assume that you and your significant other are exclusive, unless you both agree that you are. You have only been dating this person for about a month, so my advice is to simply bask in the moment and enjoy each day that you spend with this individual. I'm sure that you have acquired many interests/hobbies in the 20 years you did not date. You didn't mention what you guys do on your dates, but make certain that this individual is interested in what you are interested in and vice versa. And remember, everything that is new gets old eventually...
Gday

Back on the dating scene...

No doubt something has happened that put you back on the dating scene.

Isnt it great to find out we still have it in us to feel that flutter in the heart (that isnt medically related) and that excitement, that we may not have felt since we held hands the first time when we were kids.

I reckon its safe to say that one thing we have with a few years on us, is experience.

Experience will tell you that honesty is the best policy so dont beat around the bush girl.

Without being overbearing, find a nice spot, just you and him and hold his hand (important), look him right in the eye and tell him you feel something a bit special towards him and felt that, (without being pushy), and wanted to know if he might be ready to make himself more available to one person, (you)rather than to many.

He might be in the same boat as you, and need someone to give himself too.

Remember, lots of men are little boys inside, so be gentle, and what ever you do dont be mothering, but make sure he understands exactly what you are getting at.

He needs to.......get it........too.

Oh, and make sure you smile while you discuss this with him.

If it turns out that he wants to be a free agent, well youve been honest and you wont be wasting time.

Then you go have a little cry, a nice glass of wine in the bath then pick yourself up and go for it again.

There will DEFINITELTY be someone for you out there.

Just so you know I was with the same woman for 32 years.

First girl I ever put my arm around.

Married for 26 years and two sons.

Then it all ended, although amicably.

I met 3 ladies over about a 12 month period and then, Neridah came along.

She was smitten, I didnt know........ a bit scared........then we became good friends, then mates and lovers and now we are married and its all good.

The relationship has blossomed and I am so happy to spend the rest of my life with her.

She has a daughter Nikkita and I had to come to grips with a little girl hugging me, after the rough and tumble of two boys who grew up in the bush.

Nikk is 17 now and a lovely young woman.

Anyway thats my story so you can see Ive kinda been where you are.

Good luck and keep your chin up.

Happiness is peeping around the corner at you and will leap on you when you least expect it.

GIVE everything YOU want out of a relationship to him, and dont wait for it to be given to you.

You get out of a relationship what YOU put in.

Love every minute of your life.
I prefer the smaller dating sites and the niche sites. I recommend trying

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Dating someone for 4 months - stupid or stranger than fiction?

You have been dating someone for 4 months. You talk on the phone every morning and every night. You spend the weekend with each other every weekend. There is a 2 hour distance between you. She lives with someone. At first she says it is just a friend. In the 4th month, I find out this is her ex husband. She said the marriage was annuled and he is just a roommate. She says she is moving to my state to be closer to her church and me. She puts on this very christian front. When time to move, she stops calling, writing emails, instant messaging, everything because she says she is so busy packing. She won't answer the cell phone or the house phone Now her house phone has been cut off. Every time she would talk to me on the phone she said I Love you. She even posted on her myspace that she loved me with all her heart.

I think she has gotten back together with her ex husband yet I have heard nothing from her in 10 days. What to do other than let it go? How would you feel?

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Wow. I mean, wow!

Look, you should be very wary of this woman. Not mentioning that her roommate is her ex-husband is a lie. It's not just an ommission, it's a lie.

I would probably dial down my expectations for this relationship by a lot. I would not contact her. If she contacts you, then I would demand an explanation of her absence.

It's really hard to let go of a relationship like this, but I don't know if I could ever trust her again.

At best, she's a liar. At worst, she's conning you. And she's almost assuredly a flake.

How would I feel? I would be thinking right now about how I could have seen this coming. Were there signs that you missed? It's worth thinking about.

Ex girlfriend is dating my roommate.?

I just recently ended a relationship with my ex. A couple days latter I realized I made a mistake. But before I could get back together with her again, she started getting friendly with my roommate. I told both of them that I was uncomfortable with them seeing each other in hopes that they might not start "officially" dating.

Both of them told me that they were going to do what they wanted without any regard for my feelings. They started dating, and I almost ended my life (ya, stupid huh?).

I really did love this girl and the odd thing was she said that she loved me and hoped that we could have another shot for the future. In the process of all of this, I said some really terrible things to her and told her that I just wanted her out of my life.

The weird thing is that even after all of this, a piece of me still loves her. Would I be an idiot to try and work things out with her or should I just end it right now?

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let her go in fact they were probably already doing it when you were the boyfriend she has no class she has very few friends and she does not need you please do yourself a favor and forget about her and as soon as you can get a new girl neither of them know to come home with you and start treating her so good the old flame becomes jealous. then find a new place to live because your room ate is a self centered jerk wad for telling you to pound sand that tell s me he was doing her while you were.... He's a pig rid your self of the farm animals and find a new life without the backstabbing works of art you are currently in the crapper with.

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nope, end it. she moved on and it's your turn. you can't take back what you said.
there are no u-turns in a relationship...especially when she is being ridden by someone else!
You were the one who broke her heart, and now you're crawling back to her??

You have no right to interfere in their relationship. You dumped her. She moved on and found a new boyfriend. What's wrong with that?
cant you take a hint man!

Shes shacked up with your roommate.

get out of there.
Yeah...I say that chapter in your life has closed and just like the snow melts in winter ro reveal spring so should absolve yourself of those feelings and begin anew.
Samuel,

It looks to me like you have ended it already. The probability of them staying together is VERY SLIM. I would give her a few weeks to get really tired of him then attempt to resolve the relationship if it is at all possible. They may grow weary of each other before that time and you may be able to get to see her earlier, but I would not crowd them. You may drive them closer together. Why not spend some quality time reading, studying, and obeying GOD? HE is always there when we need HIM.

To become a real Christian, we are told that we must HEAR the WORD in John 6:45, Jesus said, “It is written in the prophets, And they shall all be taught by God. Therefore everyone who has heard and learned from the Father comes to Me.” We are also told so in Romans 10:17 So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God. We are told the we must BELIEVE in Hebrews 11:6 But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him. We are also told so in Mark 16:16, Jesus said “He who believes and is baptized will be saved; but he who does not believe will be condemned.” and in John 5:24 "Most assuredly, I say to you, he who hears My word and believes in Him who sent Me has everlasting life, and shall not come into judgment, but has passed from death into life. We are told that we must REPENT (or turn from sin) in Luke 13:3 I tell you, no; but unless you repent you will all likewise perish. Also in Acts 17:30 Truly, these times of ignorance God overlooked, but now commands all men everywhere to repent. We are told to CONFESS CHRIST in Romans 10:9-10 that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. We are also told in 1 Timothy 6:12 Fight the good fight of faith, lay hold on eternal life, to which you were also called and have confessed the good confession in the presence of many witnesses. We are to be BAPTIZED according to Acts 2:38 Then Peter said to them, "Repent, and let every one of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins; and you shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.” and Mark 16:16 He who believes and is baptized will be saved; but he who does not believe will be condemned. We are to CONTINUE to be FAITHFUL UNTIL DEATH according to Revelation 2:10c Be faithful until death, and I will give you the crown of life. We also know that Paul wrote in Romans 14:12 each of us shall give account of himself to God. It is important that we not ignore what is written, change what is written, or add to what is written in the New Testament which is our Christian Guide. If you have questions, please email me. Have a great day!

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Look just follow both your heart n mind. Don't fall for what only one of them says. Give it time, meet her a little more and see how she is doing, it will help you come to the right conclusion but don;t get emotionally sucked into it until you are very sure. Again, whatever you decide, make sure both your mind n heart agree. And if they don't then you are not ready to commit and you are not ready to decide anything or sit back n relax as if everythign was kool between you two. And if you want the easy way out of all this, Just forget about her and move on, find someone else. Hope this helps.

-Cheers.

Ex girlfriend is dating my roommate.?

I just recently ended a relationship with my ex. A couple days latter I realized I made a mistake. But before I could get back together with her again, she started getting friendly with my roommate. I told both of them that I was uncomfortable with them seeing each other in hopes that they might not start "officially" dating.

Both of them told me that they were going to do what they wanted without any regard for my feelings. They started dating, and I almost ended my life (ya, stupid huh?).

I really did love this girl and the odd thing was she said that she loved me and hoped that we could have another shot for the future. In the process of all of this, I said some really terrible things to her and told her that I just wanted her out of my life.

The weird thing is that even after all of this, a piece of me still loves her. Would I be an idiot to try and work things out with her or should I just end it right now?

Thanks!

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let her go in fact they were probably already doing it when you were the boyfriend she has no class she has very few friends and she does not need you please do yourself a favor and forget about her and as soon as you can get a new girl neither of them know to come home with you and start treating her so good the old flame becomes jealous. then find a new place to live because your room ate is a self centered jerk wad for telling you to pound sand that tell s me he was doing her while you were.... He's a pig rid your self of the farm animals and find a new life without the backstabbing works of art you are currently in the crapper with.

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nope, end it. she moved on and it's your turn. you can't take back what you said.
there are no u-turns in a relationship...especially when she is being ridden by someone else!
You were the one who broke her heart, and now you're crawling back to her??

You have no right to interfere in their relationship. You dumped her. She moved on and found a new boyfriend. What's wrong with that?
cant you take a hint man!

Shes shacked up with your roommate.

get out of there.
Yeah...I say that chapter in your life has closed and just like the snow melts in winter ro reveal spring so should absolve yourself of those feelings and begin anew.
Samuel,

It looks to me like you have ended it already. The probability of them staying together is VERY SLIM. I would give her a few weeks to get really tired of him then attempt to resolve the relationship if it is at all possible. They may grow weary of each other before that time and you may be able to get to see her earlier, but I would not crowd them. You may drive them closer together. Why not spend some quality time reading, studying, and obeying GOD? HE is always there when we need HIM.

To become a real Christian, we are told that we must HEAR the WORD in John 6:45, Jesus said, “It is written in the prophets, And they shall all be taught by God. Therefore everyone who has heard and learned from the Father comes to Me.” We are also told so in Romans 10:17 So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God. We are told the we must BELIEVE in Hebrews 11:6 But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him. We are also told so in Mark 16:16, Jesus said “He who believes and is baptized will be saved; but he who does not believe will be condemned.” and in John 5:24 "Most assuredly, I say to you, he who hears My word and believes in Him who sent Me has everlasting life, and shall not come into judgment, but has passed from death into life. We are told that we must REPENT (or turn from sin) in Luke 13:3 I tell you, no; but unless you repent you will all likewise perish. Also in Acts 17:30 Truly, these times of ignorance God overlooked, but now commands all men everywhere to repent. We are told to CONFESS CHRIST in Romans 10:9-10 that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. We are also told in 1 Timothy 6:12 Fight the good fight of faith, lay hold on eternal life, to which you were also called and have confessed the good confession in the presence of many witnesses. We are to be BAPTIZED according to Acts 2:38 Then Peter said to them, "Repent, and let every one of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins; and you shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.” and Mark 16:16 He who believes and is baptized will be saved; but he who does not believe will be condemned. We are to CONTINUE to be FAITHFUL UNTIL DEATH according to Revelation 2:10c Be faithful until death, and I will give you the crown of life. We also know that Paul wrote in Romans 14:12 each of us shall give account of himself to God. It is important that we not ignore what is written, change what is written, or add to what is written in the New Testament which is our Christian Guide. If you have questions, please email me. Have a great day!

Eds
Look just follow both your heart n mind. Don't fall for what only one of them says. Give it time, meet her a little more and see how she is doing, it will help you come to the right conclusion but don;t get emotionally sucked into it until you are very sure. Again, whatever you decide, make sure both your mind n heart agree. And if they don't then you are not ready to commit and you are not ready to decide anything or sit back n relax as if everythign was kool between you two. And if you want the easy way out of all this, Just forget about her and move on, find someone else. Hope this helps.

-Cheers.

Dating for two weeks...?

ive been dating this guy for two weeks and he already said the "L" word. i really like him, and can see myself having a possible future with him but i believe that love is a VERy strong word and should NOT be spoken lightly. i told him "easy on the "love you" until we get more serious" so either he didnt take a hint or he thought i was playing around.

what to do...

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Love is a strong word. You just can tell him thank you , like on the movie "liar,liar" when the girl was on the plane.

that's all you can do %26amp; keep telling him you're not ready for a serious relationship. it might be good if you dont date , if you dont see having a serious relatinship with this guy. it's just going to hurt someone.

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Well, love knows no time limits, but I agree, that's way too soon. Maybe he's for real, but I think he's just caught up in all the emotion.
serious doesnt have a time limit for some people. he may think you are serious. or if you are younger he may not know what it really means yet. just because he said it doesnt mean you have to. if it bothers you then tell him
you just have to tell him what you said here.

say that it 1. makes you feel uncomfortable or 2. that you should wait until you have more of a stable relationship or 3. tell him that you believe that is an extremel powerful word that should not be uses lightely and that you should wait until your deeper in r finaly 4. all of the above
I would really watch out if I were you...I know how you feel about havin people say that to you when you aren't really that involved yet, its happened to me a few times. Keep in mind that guys don't really like to say that in the first place, let alone really early, and definitely not before the girl does if we can help it. He's either up to something or he's overly emotional, which is really lame.
Well, you did the right thing in telling him to take it easy. He may just be really into you but really not "in love" yet! Also know that what one person thinks about using the "l-word" may be a different from what another person thinks. I think the point he's trying to make here is that he really likes you a lot and that he sees a lot of potential in your relationship. That's a good thing!

Just to be on the safe side, sit down and talk to him. Let him know that you like him a lot and you see a lot of potential in your relationship... but let him know that you're not "in love" yet. Be sure to follow that statement up by saying that he could possibly be someone you'll fall in love with. As long as he knows where your relationship stands, it's all good.

I think he just can't find any other word to explain how he feels about you. When my fiance and I started dating, I had the urge to say "I love you," but we had only been talking for like 3 days. Instead I said something like, "Ok! I love you... in a light way." We always laugh when we think about that. :)
we tend to lie and we sometimes it makes you girls feel that we are really into the relationship.... so dont worry about it... he might mean it one day ;)
I'm guessing your still in High School, so you will hear that word used a lot more loosely in that setting. If you want to stay with him, talk to him about your beliefs in the word. Communication is key for relationships to work. If he is mature, he will be understanding. If he isn't well maybe he isn't for you.

Most people at this age don't know what love really is.

Some questions to pose towards him is : Do you really love me? How do you know what love is? How do you know you love this soon in a relationship?
I totally agree with you.

Dating(How old)?

What is the right age for dating someone.

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16 cuz u cant really go anywhere unless you can drive... and no, its not a date if ur mom drops u off at the movies!!

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umm...i think that if it is just dating and nothing totally serious then u can start at age (say) 13....but if it is like serious dating and long term stuff like that then 16 would be better
well i dont think it matter...middle school maybe???
I think that there is no age for everybody but i do think that there are certain ages for different people. For me, I started dating in sixth grade. I feel that I was way to young for dating then but I think that it taught me alot because I caught my boyfriend kissing another girl at the movies! I realized that I need to pick them more carefully and for the last ten years that has what I have been doing.I have no longer been rushing into relationships just to prove to people that I have a boyfriend. I try and get to know them and what their personality is like. I believe that if someone in middle school ( say eighth grade) is prepared to do that then go ahead. I think that it is good practice for them for when they go on to more serious relationships later on in life because i believe that until your about jr./sr. year in high school, you are not looking for someone who you are going to spend the rest of your life with, you are just trying to have a good time, know what traits you want in a person, and come to know yourself better. I hope that answers your question. Best Wishes.

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whenever your parents let you. whenever you find someone worth dating. whenever you feel you are ready to get your heartbroken.
Dating, I would say 11 or 12 by dating I mean just casually going out with someone to the movies, McDonald's, the mall. For a steady boyfriend or girlfriend I say 15 or 16. When you are young you should play the field and find out what you are really looking for in a person, at that age how serious of a commitment can you make with someone.

What is kind of funny is when I was in elementary school we would all have little boyfriends and girlfriends who we would sit next to at lunch and chase around the playground, I miss those days, dating as you get older just gets harder.

Dating in "circle of friends"...?

Dating someone in your "circle of friends": good idea, bad idea?

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Bad.

Everybody is gonna know your sh*t. Good, Bad and Benign........if things go bad, the circle members will enivitably take sides.

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Bad idea if you value your friendships.
its not bad.......doesnt matter...why?
gud idea
If you really think that it will be a lasting relationship, I would say it's a good idea. If you aren't sure, then bad idea.

Talk to the person first, you may both decide that it's for the best if you don't.

Why are adults against teenagers dating???

why are adults always answering my dating questions? saying that im to young to date guys im 14 turning 15 soon im old enough to go to the movies with a boy and have a boyfriend? and even if im not i have already had plenty? so i mine as well keep going right? why is it so wrong when your young to have fun and date!?

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To be fair, the number of adults who advise teens to wait and not be in too much of a hurry to grow up are nothing compared to the AVALANCHE of influences in the media pushing teens to become sexually active at earlier and earlier ages every generation. I agree you should have your fun, but there's alot of misinformation and bad examples out there, and some people really just want to help you (especially to avoid some of the mistakes they may have made). Take it in the spirit it was offered, relax, and understand that someday you'll be old and annoying to someone too!

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Because they know the consequences and the hurt that can come from love at early ages. And if you make mistakes when you are young they will haunt you for the rest of your life.
Learn how to spell and good grammer then we'll talk about dating
Because we were 14 and 15 once too. We had the same rules as you do about dating. BTW I'm 22 and I would say no way in hell is my 13 year old sister is dating until she is at least 16.
i know what ur talkin about im only 13. its just retarded how parents say ur too young to date...u can date at any age if u want to, i used to live in illinois for 10 years and my best friend was going out with someone from 1-3rd grade
Mainly because they believe you have the gun and the bullet but lack the wisdom to not shoot it.

Also we forget what it was like back at that age and feel we were stupid back then.
My mom wouldn't let me date until I was 16 but some of my friends got to before that.

It's a matter of trying to protect you. At 14 or 15 things can get out of hand very quickly. You forget - adults have been there before. There are a lot of kids NOT having sex at that age, but there are just as many who are. I'm not saying that you're thinking sex, but who's to say that your date isn't?

Edit - don't be bashing Crystal for making a valid point. Your grammar is horrible, your lack of capitalization is atrocious, your hearts injected for no apparent reason is immature and and a complete lack of comma usage is confusing. Moreover, it's "too young" not "to young", "might as well" not "mine as well" and it's "you're young" not "your young".

You are posting on a public forum, giving adults EVERY right to answer your questions. When you're 14 and I'm 32, I hate to tell you, honey, but I have much more life experience than you. So do all of the other adults answering your questions. You may think that you know it all now, but over time you'll realize that maybe we weren't such crackheads after all.
Two words for you teen pregnancy.
well, im 19 and have a 15 year old brother. so i know where youre coming from.

but i think adults are against you dating for a number of different reasons: A) you said you have had plenty of boyfriends at 15 years old, and maybe they just want you to slow down. kids your age are very fickle and dont know what they want. B) theyre trying to save you from heartache! it's good to go out and experience different guys and see which personality you click with, but not in excess...

i think this is where theyre coming from. my advice to you is to find a personality type that you click with, and try to date people within that category. and slow down!! dont be in a rush to grow up. it sucks. trust me.

good luck!
As a rule, adults aren't actually *against* teenagers dating - it's more that we're... well... afraid. Afraid that our teens are growing up too fast and making decisions that they may not be really prepared to make.

As with anything else, we're trying to protect you from heartache and the angst that goes along with growing up.

Dating often leads to tears and sometimes leads to decisions that will effect you for the rest of your life. And, we'd REALLY like to keep you from having to make decisions about sex for as long as possible.
There is nothing wrong with dating...its the sex part that concerns adults
You teens forget that your parents were once your age. It's not that their against teen dating, it's what their capable of doing on that date. REMEMBER your parents were 14 at one time. But parents also forget what it's like to b 14. They are just trying to protect their little girl. DON"T GROW UP SO FAST CUZ ONCE YOUR GROWN YOU CAN'T EVER GO BACK!!!!
Because adults were 14 going on 15 and know what it is like. They answer so that maybe you could take advantage of their experience, and possibly avoid some of their mistakes, and heartache. It isn't that they are being mean to you, actually it is the opposite. If they take the time to answer (even though it might be someting you don't wanna hear) it is because they actually care.
I don't think you'll listen to any of our advice anyway regardless of what we are telling you, but wait until you have a 14 year old kid then come back and ask us this question.

Which, by the reckless tone of your spelling, grammar, and attitude, should be in about 15 years.

And yes, there are a few spelling and grammar mistakes in your question/details. Read it again with an adult.
Because we (adults) have been teenagers sugar, and we know what it's like...we know the typical maturity level of teens, the typical thought processes of teens, and hormone changes they are going through...we know more than they, what they are most likely emotionally capable of handling as well as physically...we want what is best for them (although they think we're just being mean) and that often includes things they disagree with us over.

We've been there...we know what many of you think about adults, because we thought those things when we were teens to.

THAT is why we, based on experience, knowledge, and wisdom, tend to make suggestions or offer advice that is contrary to what you (or any other teen) may think they want or can handle.

You're likely to feel the same as we do, when you become an adult and are advising teens. It's been thus throughout history (just hasn't always occured on the internet). ?
it's not so much as dating but teenagers do not understand the concept of dating. When you are dating you are free to see as many people as you want so that you my eventually decide who you will start a serious relationship with. Teenagers on the other hand go on dates and the next thing you know these kids are acting like they are married. With no room to grow as a person you are stuck with one person so when adults tell you something they know what they are talking about. Think of it this way when you shop for shoes you just don't grab what's on the wall, you have try some on so you can see what fits and what looks good. think about it.
well i just think most parent are just trying to keep you from making mistakes but i think its a mistake for parents not to talk to their teen kids like they are adults and explain things to them of why they don't want them going on dates....parents are just scared to say now the boy is going to try and do this so be ready for it and you have to not let him touch this parents just don't do this...but they should. sorry this is so long...parents know at 14-15 harmones are growing strong so to keep you safe they want you to just stay away from guy...instead of telling you the things to be ready for...so main thing is just be mature about it and make good decisions...and be safe
Girl, tell "Crystal D" that when SHE learns proper spelling and grammar, that you'll stop dating. Her posting had bad sentence structure, lacked a period, and last but not least, "grammer" was misspelled.)
cuz adults aim to ruin our lives and they try to act like they were never young and didnt want to have fun

Dating so young these days!!!!!?

I'm not judging young people that are 'dating'. I'm just so surprised that kids aged 12 and 13 yrs are so into boys! I'm 24, when I was that young I was totally innocent and just played with my girlfriends..boys were something we giggled about BUT none of my friends were actually doing anything with them! I had my first kiss at nearly 17 years. My first boyfriendat 20 years. And my new boyfriend (and hopefully my future husband) at 24 years. I'd like to hear responses from 12 or 13 year olds. I'm not having a go at you, I'm just amazed that's all!

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my friends have boyfriends and they think that the bfs are their future husbands. although the longest relationships i know of is 5 months. my friend had a highschool bf when she was 10!(i know, shocking)

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What? Don't you think it's cute to watch little kids with their boyfriends/girlfriends...of coarse they don't kiss or anything but they have their little playdates. i think it's cute...unless I see them going to movies and restaurants without adult supervision and starting making-out than I draw the line
I was still giggling about them at that time but I also had a really big crush when I was 13. I'm 15 now. So as things change and happen faster in the world so do hormones and the age that kids want to date. It's totally weird seeing 11 and 12 year olds like eachother...too weird.
I hope that 27 year old get *** raped in prison because of you, that is some really sick **** man. I mean damn, that is about the sluttiest most gross thing Ive heard, well not really but its definatly up there. And come on these 12 and 13 year olds are all sexually active, sometimes with the faculty from their schools. I could care less because its not like I would ever go near a girl that was like the first girl that responded. Man that is seriously messed up, the guy was driving a car legally when you were being conceived.
bob dont know, this generation is a LOT more horny though, kids at 14 and 15 having sex while most older people bob knows are surprised and consider the kids too young for that crap.

ANYWAYS,

bob dont know, must be something in the water, kids are starting to have "feelings" at much younger ages, although the feelings usually last 3 years max and isnt real love and ****. Its the hormones that get the kids all hot up and ****, bob cannot explain why this generation is more horny and wanting to be in serious relationships so young. Bob was 14 when he got his first girl and kiss. Bob is 15 by the way.
my brother is 11 and he's had like 12 girlfriends. they acctually went to like football games together and stuff. Im 15 and olny had one simi-boyfriend (we liked each other and went to the movies together and stuff, but never acctually called each other bf/gf, plus he was a grade younger). im amazed by this too. i mean i liked boys liked that in 5th grade but noone acctually did anything about anyone they liked. i mean it was 5th grade!
I had my first boyfriend at 10. We talked on the phone, said we loved each other, talked about the future....yeah amazed....right.......so am i. lol I'm older now...and i look back at that and i'm like what the hell was i thinking.....well we didn't see each other outside of school or anything...he tried to hold my hand once and i slapped him........ahh.....young love.......haha......good memories......hehe....but i know what you mean......its shocking...and i guess in a way a bad thing if you really think about it.....sort of......depends on how you look at it......

Dating a nice guy, in love with another guy who is...?

my version of ADAM and I'm EVE.

Ok, well, this guy I'm in love with is my friend. We connect. He's that guy that snuck into my life at a time when I felt God didn't create anyone else like me. Well it turns out he did, but he's TAKEN! ;-( No big deal... i love his friendship. We are the best together. And well I'm dating this guy. He's faithful, successful and cute, but we are nothing alike. It wants a future with me, but I can't make my heart stop falling for my friend...

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Definitely date him, even though it may feel weird, the feeling's mutual.

Dating? any sites?

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Ive tried them and i cant recommend any
lol to mark!!! match.com, cupid.com, true.com i've heard of these maybe they work idk
they all seem to be a scam to me, wouldnt recomend any of them
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Dating laws between minors and adults?

i am a 15 year old girl, i will be 16 in July. My boy friend of 4 months will be 18 at the end of this month (by the time he turns 18 we would have been dating 5 months). I know we arent allowed to have sex but what else? My parents said when he turns 18 they will call the cops on him if he touches me. I know slightly about the 2 year clause thingie but still.

what exactly is the law?

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I was in a similar situation when I was 16--a cop told me that when it comes to the law, 16 and under is black and white, 18 and over is black and white, but age 17 is a gray area and it really depends on the situation. In my opinion, the best thing to do right now is wait--if he's around in a year, go for it. But you have to think about the consequences of your actions--and your parents are really only trying to protect you. They don't want to see you hurt in any way--emotionally or otherwise.

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it depends on the state
Sorry doll, you're pretty much up the creek. Aside from statutory rape laws, your parents are legally entitled to file a restraining order against your boyfriend prohibiting him from having any contact with you whatsoever, as long as you are a dependent minor. The laws vary by state, so you鈥檇 have to find out what the facts are for where you live.

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OK, you added information on your state. In California, there is no rape statute relevant to your circumstance, because you are less than three years apart in age. http://www.cga.ct.gov/2003/olrdata/jud/r...

If you think that your parents are serious about involving the police then you, or your preferably your boyfriend, should consult an attorney who specializes in family law about your situation.
hunny, its not actually illegal at all. right now

you arent allowed to have sex when you are

16 you will be legal to have sex. and as long

as he isnt 4 years older than you its deff. ok

your parents will be upset to find out there is

really nothing that they can do about it.

Good Luck!!
If your 16 or older you can go out but if your younger he can go to jail
Your parents can cause a lot of problems for your boyfriend simply because of the age difference. You can make your parents look foolish by honestly talking to the police if they are ever involved.

Your relationship with your parents wont be very good.

In two years you can do whatever you like.

Check your state laws. The police detectives can advise you , or the district attorney.
The law is anyone 18 or older may date someone 16 or 17 but may not do anything sexual with them or it is statutory rape..None 18 years of age or older may date anyone 15 years of age or younger.

Do not listen to dontchuwi.. unless you want your boyfriend to go to jail. My cousins friend was 16 having sex with an 18 year old and he was arrested, they had got together a few months before he hit 18.
well you need to find a bf your own age and you shouldn't even been asking these questions at your age
you need to call your local court and ask them, they will give you the exact answers you and he need to know. each state is different.
UNLUCKY. In ENGLAND they dont hav such laws like that. when ur 16 its legal end of. glad to be a Brit.

Translate German, Spanish, Italian for "dating site"?

I am trying to setup some European dating sites and wondered if people could tell me the words used to descibe a dating site in these languages. Not a direct translation but a cultural one as for example in the french they are reffered to as singles clubs not dating sites. If there is more than one term please feel free to give me the options.

Cheers!

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In Italian is not existing the direc translation of 'dating site' (or let's say better it could be 'sito di corteggiamento' but it's absolutely out of the current language).

'Incontro di cuori' (meeting of hearts) could be a good proposal that shouldn't make anybody misunderstood on the 'clean' contents of yr site, otherwise possible if you use different words

like 'relazioni sociali' (social relations) that's the most common way used by prostitutes to advertise on our news papers...!!!

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In Italian there's not a specific and... foolproof name for "dating site", since some terms have different hues in the meaning.

"Dating" is "appuntamento" (plural: "appuntamenti"), but it's more often used for sexual dating, on web sites, so be careful :) ; you can try "amici, amicizia" (friends, friendship), sometimes "relazioni sociali" (social relations).

"Sito" stands for site; "sito web" is "website".
It can be eine Partnervermittlungswebsite or Datingwebsite in German, but if you seriously want to set up dating sites for these countries, I'd recommend you start with an English one and get it professionally translated into German/Spanish/Italian etc. There's nothing worse than a poorly-translated website! It has 'couldn't care less' written all over it.
Oh my god, people, STOP using Babelfish and the likes, they come up with total crap!!!

I agree that a professional translation is best, but for the German one I would even recommend to stick with Dating Site, as this is young, modern, fresh and most commonly used anyway.
In italian "dating site" is "sito di incontri ( o appuntamenti...)", I'm sorry I don't know the other languages, but I am pretty sure of this....
Auf deutsch (in german): Datierung des Aufstellungsortes.

En espa?ol (in spanish):fechar el sitio

In italiano (in itallian) : datare luogo

Dating & PCOS?

Help! I have PCOS and am on Metformin. I can't take bcp becasue of my family medical history %26amp; I have had a heart attack. When do I have the sex talk wth the man? I am not dating anyone right now %26amp; haven't since my husband's death. But this could potnentially be a deal breaker for some men %26amp; I am not sure what to say or when the subject should be broached. Help!

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When you finally are in a relationship where you think you'll want to be intimate with a guy, you'll know when the time is right to discuss these things. There are plenty of other methods of birth control without having to use hormonally-based ones. Barrier methods, combined with fertility awareness (hoping your cycles are at least somewhat regular now with Metformin), can go a long way in preventing pregnancy.

Talk to your gynecologist about a newer barrier method called Lea's Shield. In clinical studies, when combined with spermicides, it was found to be 93% effective (versus the diaphragm at only 85%).

Fertility issues should not be a problem for a guy who's older and mature (since you're a widow, you're not too, too young). Just be honest and upfront. Some guys don't want to have kids...my husband didn't and it was just as well...I can't carry babies to term any longer.

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I will assume you are not a blushing young maiden and possibly not interested in starting a family - this will probably be evident to any interested males. The PCOS just give you a strength edge that a guy may find appealing when he needs help lifting. The heart attack - when do you think the man should mention it if he had a heat attack? None of this seems like a deal breaker to me. Lots of kids all needing financial support - bipolar disorder - now those can be deal breakers

Should women with children give up on dating?

Whenever I read about about dating and the topic of women with kids come up, men usually say they don't want a women with kids, which is fine. Everyone has a right to their preference. It seems that men with children don't even want to date women with children.

People have this misconception that all single mothers are out looking for a man to raise their kids or she is just some slut that got knocked up, when many single mothers are products of marriages or long-term relationships that just didn't work.

Why do men see women with children as repulsive? Should women with children accept a life of singleness? Should women with children wait until their children are grown to date?

Why do men assume that women with kids are out to take something from them or want them to be instant dads? Many single moms just want to go out and date and have fun just like single women with no kids and don't want a man involved with their kids.

Any thoughts?

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It has nothing to do with what you think.

No you don’t have to wait. Even after your kids grow up, odds are you are going to have grandkids hanging around creating the same problem. The reason so many men don’t want to date you is simple. Nobody can make their kids behave. Maybe you do, but most men, like myself, have already dated a series of duds that let their kids mess up.

Just about every woman that had kids, let them in the master bedroom, or slept with their kids in the same bed. I even dated one that expected me to have sex with her son sleeping in the same room (sorry but "Mr Happy" checked out for the evening when I saw her son in the same room).

I dated another that was really nice, but she could not understand why I had a problem with the peanut butter finger prints all over her TV screen. Did I mention that none of her kids where tall enough to reach the TV without standing on a chair? That is a “red flag” that there are behavior problems.

I’m sorry but most single mothers can’t accept that nude barbie dolls floating in a swimming pool are not exactly the hallmark of well behaved children. The same goes for dried melted ice cream in the cup holders of that 50K Denali Edition GMC Suburban with leather seats.

Most of the single mothers had ex-lovers whom had keys to their homes.

Lastly, I had a vasectomy 20 years ago (when I was 21) because I didn’t want children. Every single mother, that I ever dated, asked me if I would consider reversing my vasectomy. Do you see what I am getting at?

Ask yourself. What would you tolerate from the children of a single father? I bet any of the above would be a “deal breaker” would it not?

Your best bet is to date single fathers. They do exist. Some of my friends are. - Good luck!

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No, because I truely believe that there is someone out there for everyone. And if they're single, why not live it up and look for that person? Just because they have kids doesn't make them any less attractive. And not every man thinks children are repulsive. If there is a man who loves a woman, and who comes to love her children out there, then why the hell can't a single mom date?
no they shouldnt give up
No way . Go out and enjoy what you can while you can . Life is too short to be alone and not have any fun!
No way. Mothers with children are hot.
Stop dating sissy men.
I'm a single mom and I have no trouble with men. There's someone for everyone, kids or no kids. I see lots of single mothers with boyfriends, fiancees, or new husbands. It'll happen.
I think you are looking in the wrong places and meeting the wrong men. I personally, have never encountered this issue and have been a single mom for a very long time. I have remained single by choice, however, dating has never been an issue. Good luck to you. God bless*
No, I haven't given up on dating. Heck I'm not really looking for someone to raise my son. I'm just out for a good time. I always make that known to my dates. If we're meant to be then it will happen. If not, who cares?
honey women without children have problems if you arent some skinny lil rail that looks like she poses for Victorias secret you have 0 chance so dont feel like the lone ranger,just make yourself happy
You're dating the wrong kinds of men. Yes, there are men who don't date women with children, but there are also men who don't care if you have children. If they're interested enough in you, then they'll be open to getting to know your children.
Sounds to me like you are in the internet dating world. I've been there with the same results and it only makes you feel bad and not wanted.

they are out looking for one thing,and get really mouthy cause they are not seen, only online in pictures.

Get out of that scene. Go to singles groups or church groups and meet men in real life.

I did, and I'm living happily with a man who my grand-child calls Grampa
Many women with children immediately let you know that you'll always be second priority to their children. Why settle for second if you don't have to?
Becuase it happens often enough to make men wonder.

I married my ex-wife knowing that she came with a daughter she had before I met her.

I became nothing more than an ATM and some useful for killing bugs.

She decided after 7 years to have an affair with an older married man (50+ years old) and is now spending his money.

So don't blame men, blame the women who act in such a fashion to support the stereotype you resent.
My 5 month old daughter is the most important thing to me. If my marriage didn't work out and I got a divorse (been married for 5 years) I wouldn't want to have men come in and out of my life as dating would suggest. What kind of example is that to a child? I believe once you have a child, you are supposed to be a PARENT and that comes first, before your life. It's not the kids fault a marriage or relationship didn't work, why should they suffer?
its repulsive, to me becuase thats just more responsiblity to have to put up with. i dont want to sound like a total jerk but i think that as a mother she should be taking care of there kids instead of spreading her legs and trying to find a man. as a kid i would be extrememly disgusted with the idea of a mom wanting sex and being a tramp. IM NOT SAYING YOU ARE A TRAMP. but thats i i feel about that. mainly she should concentrate on her kids and her job instead of sex with men, that would make the kids feel very awkward
Not all men dislike women with children,want to be instant dads,they just want a chance for a happy, loving relationship, kids or not. There are loving, kind, open minded, open hearted men that are willing to help bring up another persons children.
I believe women with children should date. To those men who have children and don't want to date women with children are MAJOR HYPOCRITES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 How did the children get here in the first damn place? Date on my fellow single sisters,, date ON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WE DESERVE TO HAVE SOMEBODY TOO!!!!!!!!!! ANYBODY COULD END UP BEING A SINGLE PARENT BY ANY CIRCUMSTANCE!!!!!!!!! Single mothers should NEVER give up on dating. God has a person for each and everyone if they desire one. HOLLA1.
i believe that thye have the same right as men. having a kid and trying to tade some1 doesnt mean she needs a father 4 her kid. n i find it completely acceptable for women with kids to date. waitin for kids to grow up will b a long time,...
Maybe they think you just want them for their financial support.

Not that you, personally, give off that vibe, but they are conditioned to think that way thanks to society and the especially the movies!! I mean, they cant ASK you your intentions, so they usually assume the worst.

Good luck, sweetie!!

Mr Happy

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No they shouldn't give up! Dating is hard for everyone. And it's not just guys who feel that way, I dont' date men who have children. Not because I have anything against them but because I've never wanted my own children so I wouldn't want to raise someone else's.
First of all u have kids n they should be ur no. one responsibility and priority. Some men have a problem with that, then fine, u already accept that as thier preference , which is good, but dont give up on dating and searching the right guy for u n ur kids.(of course the guy should take responsibility of the kids too, if things turn serious). And one last thing,why should u even care what some men think of single moms, and why its repulsive,its thier problem,its just a matter of keeping patience, and choosing a man with a cool head and with u n ur kids in mind.
You have asked about multiple issues.

- no single mothers should not give up on dating

- Ethology, the study of the biology of behavior, says that it is not in the males interests to invest energy in the survival of genes not his own. Instinct says, if it is not your genetic pool, then you don't want anything to do with it.

- men develop a cautious attitude often because they have met women with or without kids that were looking for a meal ticket

- many women with kids don't take care of themselves and don't look as attractive as they could if they had more time to invest in their health and appearance
I love women dammit. women should never give up dating. It's unamerican, unethical, and damaging to your health and the health of men.

But you are right in that it is hard for women with children and men with children to find dates.

My oldest daughter is in such a predicament with two children and it seems sometimes her only choice are guys who are not grown up themselves or guys wiht kids of their own who immediately set about to break them up.

Kids often dispise prospective step moms or dads as they see them as the reason for their parents breakup even if they ware strangers at the time.

There are single groups which sometimes work. My son was presiodenmt pf such a group and it worked wel for several years but got to be too confining, too many relationships going no where.

I think as you said singles going to where they might meet singles, and just being moms with needs is natural and is the way to go.

Rumors are like *** holes everyone hjas one so ignore those whjo think their is special.
men who refuse to date women with kids are giving us women with kids a break. they are being honest and not wasting my time.

my husband was like that. he always talked down about women with kids. yeah..whatever. i have two kids prior to him. We are now pregnant and he is excited.

at least the guy is being honest about his selfishness. we women just have to remember to not waste our time on trying to change that outlook. plenty of men out there are willing to date and even commit to MILFs. you just have to commit to looking for one of these guys.

i never understood that thought in a man. it's not like i asked a guy to babysit. back when i was just dating, it was all in fun and for MY entertainment. I had one guy even wonder if i had kids since he never EVER saw me carry pictures of them. because i didn't involve my children into my dating scene. if a guy stuck around and wanted it to be serious, then i introduced him to my kids. and i only did that twice. once with a long term and the other was my husband.
NO women with children should not feel that way and not all men feel that way.

Dating advice in need?

this is the latest dilemma that i have regarding dating. i noe this girl for 4 months and she has a somewhat of a good persona. how would i approach to liking me. what should i do to get her attention in order for her to like me like any suggestions or techniques that u guys have tried and actually worked. How does one know if the time is right, to tell her how you feel. What certain vibe is there that let's you know that you need to lay your feelings out to her.

i really aprreciate this and thanks

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the right time to tell her how you feel is before the breakup or after the engagement as the wise man said ...but before that try to be her funny criticizer and that's make her question you being ordinal girls don't get attracted to normal average guys from good families .. i really believe in that and I'll continue doing it ... but, hey, i was dumped more than once and have no gf now so ... consider it as just an advice.

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Well I study the person.The Key is take your time and studdy her out.Take small steps.Ask quashiones?I hope this helps
if you guys talk regularly then try this.... ignore her but not to the point where it is obvious and if she has feelings for you then she will try talking to you more trying to get your attention and if she does then let her know that you like her but whatever you do act normal and just be yourself
Be caring and loving to her. Be your natural self and she will notice you.
Well first off, your personality has to come out when you are picking up girls for more than a one nighter... Using someone elses pickups might get you laid but it won't get you much further... Be yourself and don't tell her you like her or she will drop you like that... You should read The Game by Neil Strauss, this will also benefit you... No one can tell you when the time is right, you will know, and if you are wrong, you will also know because she probably won't speak to you again...
Something that worked for me through high school and beyond to the point where I got married was a rose. Start out by leaving one rose with a note ("your secret admirer") Make sure you don't get caught leaving it! You can leave them at her home with her name written on the note. Do this at different times and do it as often as possible over a two week period. Use little phrases or parts of a poem in the notes. Leave her hints as to who you might be - but make it hard enough that she won't figure it out until you're ready for her to. This will drive her crazy! After enough time - leave her the last one with your name telling her you have thought about her often and wondered if she would consider meeting you. Roses do not cost that much and girls of all ages enjoy getting them. The secret admirer act is to get to that romantic part of her. Girls like to know that they have someone that will go to that length to get to know them. The poem part will allow you to express your feelings. Check out books on poetry to get your material. Nothing melts a girls heart faster than flowers.

Dating woes?

If a women you have been dating for sometime decides that she isnt ready for relationship and wants to be friends but yet still gives you signs she wants to be together but when asked she says she is going to stay single what would you make of that? She has a 2 year old son and she has me changing diapers ect even though we are just friends is that a l ittle odd or do you think she is trying to keep me connected in some way?

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she is using u dude. she is not woman to take of care her kid. she is making you be the father of her kid. time to walk away

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It means she's using you. Leave now, seriously. I mean that as a friend.
She is just scared to lose you. She keeps you changing dipars so you feel like she needs you which is obvious. She is just scared to lose your friendship so you may need to give her some time.
........in my humble opinion, seems to me she is rather playing you. That she isnt ready for a relationship and wants only to be friends, has you changing diapers etc.....no respectable woman should behave that way and 'just friends' is a red flag that she just isnt that into you but likes you around for the help and company.
Sounds like she likes having you around more than she just likes you. I think she's playing you. You should move on.
Sometimes a woman will continue to show signs of interest after voicing an opinion of wanting to be single. Don't allow yourself to be be confused or even fooled by this. Her words are an indication that she really does want her space. She didn't come up with this over night. She's probably been thinking of how to state her feelings for some time now I'm sorry to say. If she's giving signs, it's possible because she feels bad for potentially hurting you and she becomes more affectionate. Changing diapers means nothing. She's a single mother I'm guessing. She could use all the help in the world. That's a hard life. She's using your kindness and it's up to you satisfy the cards she delt you. You can let this continue for as long as you'd like. You'll be hurt in the end though so it's best you'd move on. Good luck to you.
ok...I would love to give my opinion as a single mom!

I think she seriously has feelings for you, and loves having you around...but I think she wants to see how you interact with her son before making a commitment.

I have 2 kids too, and before I enter into a relationship, it is important for me to know how my children and my "potential" partner interact, because I would hate to be in a situation where after my partner and I have bonded and become really close....only to find that my kids and my partner don't get along ....leaving me with a very difficult, not to mention painful decision to make...which obviously will leave me single again.

Hope that helps

S.
Could it be that she may be keeping you around until she can find someone better. it sounds to me like she is making conditions that would allow her to break it off with you when that person she is looking for comes along. Follow you instinct and do whats best for you because she doesn't have your best interest at heart.
i think at the moment she is confused being a single parent is very hard on the emotions. I think bye getting u to help with the baby she see's in u a true, caring friend. I think she is tryin to keep u connected in some way or it is that u have had a part in the babys life and she doesnt want to terminate that

Dating & PCOS?

Help! I have PCOS and am on Metformin. I can't take bcp becasue of my family medical history %26amp; I have had a heart attack. When do I have the sex talk wth the man? I am not dating anyone right now %26amp; haven't since my husband's death. But this could potnentially be a deal breaker for some men %26amp; I am not sure what to say or when the subject should be broached. Help!

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When you finally are in a relationship where you think you'll want to be intimate with a guy, you'll know when the time is right to discuss these things. There are plenty of other methods of birth control without having to use hormonally-based ones. Barrier methods, combined with fertility awareness (hoping your cycles are at least somewhat regular now with Metformin), can go a long way in preventing pregnancy.

Talk to your gynecologist about a newer barrier method called Lea's Shield. In clinical studies, when combined with spermicides, it was found to be 93% effective (versus the diaphragm at only 85%).

Fertility issues should not be a problem for a guy who's older and mature (since you're a widow, you're not too, too young). Just be honest and upfront. Some guys don't want to have kids...my husband didn't and it was just as well...I can't carry babies to term any longer.

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I will assume you are not a blushing young maiden and possibly not interested in starting a family - this will probably be evident to any interested males. The PCOS just give you a strength edge that a guy may find appealing when he needs help lifting. The heart attack - when do you think the man should mention it if he had a heat attack? None of this seems like a deal breaker to me. Lots of kids all needing financial support - bipolar disorder - now those can be deal breakers