Confused about this dating or friend with benefit situation!?

So there is this guy that I was hanging around with. We went on several 'formal' dates but mostly we would go out and party together and then come home and fool around. I was introduced to all the friends by my name. We would kiss in public, even hold hands. One time when we were lying in bed he asked me "Where is this going?" So I said "Well I don't know, I mean ideally a relationship, but it's a little early to tell." He seemed cool after that, but then gradually he kept calling less and all that jazz, until it almost turned into a booty call (but just fooling around, we never actually had sex throughout our dating or whatever) thing once every couple weeks. But he would still act like he cared holding my hand and rubbing my back, soft sweet kisses. I wasn't cool with this new every couple weeks arraingement and kind of broke it off. He still calls me all the time to hook up. What was or is his deal??

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maybe he thought you meant you didnt want a relationship when you said its too early to tell. or he was scared when you said "ideally a relationship" because he doesnt want one.

you should just talk with him about it. ask why you guys were spending lots of time together but now he doesnt call you as often. ask what he's looking to get out of you/the relationship that you guys have. he should be able to tell you. maybe you sent him mixed signals so he backed off.

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I'd say he was just wanting a little, and nothing more
He probably just slackened his attention because you sidestepped the idea of a relationship when he asked you.
he was happy with getting milk and not having to call it a cow.

you called it cow and he ran for the hills

been there done that

now it's only booty to him

if you want more than what he's willing to give you you need to move on. find someone who will give you what he did but in the proper relationship way.

trust me the fwb thing i had was the exact same way as you described. it didn't work out
i think he want's you but is really shy to like ask you so you should call and ask him if he want's to come over fool around and tell him u want to be more then friend's my guy always say u aint a man's girl until u slept with him...
guys are guys.. if he respects you as a friend or even a girlfriend he would not do that to you.. and its a normal behavior for guys to do some sweet stuffs in public so if you are the weak tyoe you will probably fall for his acts. ask him what your status really is and then stick to it or discuss it with him.
he may just be listening to you when you said you don't know and thought it was a no. so he is just trying to get you but knows he cant
You are just a toy to him, call you when he needs you or lonely. You are human not a toy, deserve respect and real care plus real love. Delete him from your mind girl!
You blew it. He asked you if you wanted a relationship and you said "I don't know". If it was to early for you to know if you wanted a relationship it was to early for y'all to be fooling around.

So the next time he calls tell him you want to be in a relationship, and not just be a booty call.
I think that time he asked you where it was going you should have been really honest. I think you could of held back really stating what you really wanted and by the time you were tired of just fooling around with him he still thinking you are cool about the whole thing and hoping it will really happen-sex.

Of course he's showing real good afftection too. You both gave a good show to those that didn't have anyone to fool around with. Right? He has no reason not to give you the best affection because he hoped the same he was giving you that you would do the same back.

That's the problem with this situation. No one will really admit that they really want a real relationship and no one wants to be the one admitting they are not cool about the whole thing.